Find Your Herd

I recently attended a personal development conference (RISE by Rachel Hollis). As one of the women spoke she stopped me in my tracks.

"In the wild, when a mama elephant is giving birth, all the other female elephants in the herd back around her in formation. They close ranks so that the delivering mama cannot even be seen in the middle. They stomp and kick up dirt and soil to throw attackers off the scent and basically act like a pack of badasses.

They surround the mama and incoming baby in protection, sending a clear signal to predators that if they want to attack their friend while she is vulnerable, they'll have to get through 40 tons of female aggression first.

When the baby elephant is delivered, the sister elephants do two things: they kick sand or dirt over the newborn to protect its fragile skin from the sun, and then they all start trumpeting, a female celebration of new life, of sisterhood, of something beautiful being born in a harsh, wild world despite enemies and attackers and predators and odds.

Scientists tell us this: They normally take this formation in only two cases - under attack by predators like lions, or during the birth of a new elephant.

This is what we do, girls. When our sisters are vulnerable, when they are giving birth to new life, new ideas, new ministries, new spaces, when they are under attack, when they need their people to surround them so they can create, deliver, heal, recover...we get in formation. We close ranks and literally have each others' backs. You want to mess with our sis? Come through us first. Good luck.

And when delivery comes, when new life makes its entrance, when healing finally begins, when the night has passed and our sister is ready to rise back up, we sound our trumpets because we saw it through together. We celebrate! We cheer!

You stay in the middle as long as you need and when you are ready you stand back up, but until then we've got you." - Jen Hatmaker

I spent an evening out with some of my best girlfriends the other night. I don't see them often as I have 2 kids under 4 and a full-time job, but I try to make it out with them as often as I can. We spent an entire evening laughing. These girls are my herd. My family is my herd.

With all of them the middle is a judgment-free zone and open to anyone who needs it.

Find your herd. Find the group who cheers for you when you are winning and closes ranks around you when you are weary. Find the people who love you for YOU!

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